A very early blog post was about acceptance. Yes, accept yourself and your body how you are: If you are angry, get a pimple, gain or lose weight. Feel fabulous! You are!
As a personal trainer, I support people to have healthy goals without being at a too skinny or a fat extreme, and without excessive dieting and exercise. Then it is up to them to choose. I then support that. There is again a yin yang balance between flow (yin) and goals (yang). Acceptance with commitment can be the context.
Once you have your goals, you can have the goals be strict and hard or not depending on your personality, wanting to set a firm time schedule, etc. Once you create that (and it can change), choose measures. These can be heart rate, blood pressure, cholesterol, waist-to-hip ration, BMI index, tape measure and caliper measures, weight, strength, flexibility, energy and more. Any of these measures alone mean nothing. Together, and with your intuitive connection with yourself, you will know if you are progressing or not.
There is nowhere to get, but don't just stay there. If you consciously want to maintain and stay at the same level, that is fine. But I recommend not to do it for more than a few months at a time. A healthy human nature is to grow spiritually, intellectually and physically. If you are on a plateau (see very early blog post), do something different like yoga, Pilates, jogging, dance, martial arts, or something else you have not done.
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